I personally really like them. As an infp I feel like I get along well with them because we are pretty similar. My best friend is an infj and we call ourselves soulmates.
There was one infj I used to know who was so perfect and talented and I used to be so Jealous of them haha đ I think lots of infjs come across like that. So beautiful, talented, and perfect. Almost fairy-like.
– Read, watched, & memorized theories, facts, & trivia about Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, *insert scifi or fantasy series⌠maybe anime*
– Will suddenly ramble to you with bright eyes and a large smile about the above, some fandom, theory, or what theyâre studying in school *probably science/research related* if you show interest in listening
– Really smart, but very forgetful
Suh Deep nâ Artsy
– Pursues some form of art (music, writing, photography, illustration, designâŚ) but damn, so hard on themselves no matter how freaking talented
– Wants to pursue a new form of art except theyâre so afraid of failure they donât even begin or give up after 5 minutes
– Probably disappears for periods of time, shutting out the world, trying to gain creative inspiration or practice for perfecting their art
– âNobody gets me, but my *insert fluffy pet of choice* and my art outletâ
– *Only creates the best art in highly deep dark emotions*
– Wants to be quirky, unique, and not fit in but not TOO much ya feel me???
Angsty nâ Always Sad
– âOH YEAH AHHAHAHHA IâM DOING FINE!!â *breaks down 30 seconds later, drowning in tears*
– Passive aggressive AF⌠run for your life if they explode in anger because it means theyâve stored it for long enough and it is the last straw *will cut someone and say sorry 100x once cooled down*
– Canât let go of old lovers no matter how messed up they were.. seems to be attracted to people that are toxic and hurt them?? Y??
– Always sad and angry inside bc world is messed up, friend didnât understand their feelings, high standards of self, donât feel like they fit in anywhere
Unpaid therapist & activist
– Asks deep questions *Knows what youâll say before you say it but nods and listens*
– Got stuck in a conversation about someone pouring out life problems *send help* but gave solid advice and some hugs
– Stands up for social issues (on a blog/social media post) and will flip tables (at home or with a close friend) about injustices around them
*Note: These are only a few I came up with & not mutually exclusive categories* -ENFJ Bunny
INFJ: calming presence, a hopeful soul, romantic romantic romantic, wise beyond years, wants to cuddle most of the time, wonât start a fight, extremely positive, doesnât talk about inner feelings, needs time alone
Also INFJ: has no chill, none, zero chill, anxious ball of fire that consumes their soul, doesnât think anyone can really love them, scared to hug people, will snap if someone crosses a value or disses a deep passion of theirs, will casually mention a past trauma, will party with 10 of their friends for 4 days straight
If you are reading this, you have probably been chosen by an INFJ to be an important person in their life. This is quite the accomplishment, as you have somehow been deemed worthy of said INFJâs attention. However, this wonât be easy, so here are some quick tips on how to care for your new introvert.
Your new INFJ comes with the following items:
– One (1) old soul
– One (1) journal for keeping track of new thoughts and discoveries
– Two (2) bookshelves full of various books
– Ten (10) assorted pillows and stuffed animals
– Two (2) devices capable of accessing the Imternet
– One (1) caring heart, ready to make your life better.
Features
Your INFJ will come equipped with the following traits:
Ni: Your INFJ likely spends a majority of their time inside themselves, tinkering with ideas and, well, just thinking. They often think in pictures, as opposed to words, and tend to look at the bigger picture. Their intuition manifests in patters, images, symbols, and dreams. Their tastes are often more refined and enjoy not only creating beauty but immersing themselves in the beauty around them.
Fe: INFJs love helping people, and enjoy feeling useful. They can easily understand the emotions of others and change the mood of the environment around them. The INFJ has a knack for interpreting roles and sizing up others. Your extroverted feeler will come in handy, so long as they donât feel used.
Ti: Introverted thinkers have a need to make sense of the world around them. They can find common traits in seemingly unrelated things and determine how everything is interrelated. Your INFJ will likely tend to strive for efficiency and perfection, and probably has a talent for troubleshooting.
Se: Your INFJ will be relatively good at sizing up situations. They live in the moment, and long for adventure. Because of this, your INFJ will get bored easily, and need a bit of excitement every now and then. In contrast to their other traits, extraverted sensing will help your INFJ to enjoy life more, instead of focusing on analyzing everything.
Getting Started
Step one: Give the INFJ books, computers, and space to grow.
Step two: Allow them to venture about to socialize and learn until fully charged.
Step three: If the above doesnât work, give them attention and small amounts of physical affection (including but not limited to hugs and hand holding).
Step four: If your INFJ is uncomfortable with physical contact, supply them with plenty of pillows and warm blankets.
Your INFJâs Modes
Philosopher Mode: Your INFJ has a natural interest in the world around them and how it works. They will try their best to learn about and make explanations for the things they see and how each of them works.
Helper Mode: If your INFJ sees someone in need, they will almost always try and fix the problem as best they can. This mode is often activated involuntarily, as it is switched on by all kinds of situations.
Psychologist Mode: It is to be expected that the INFJ will not enjoy seeing others unhappy. If such a situation were to occur, the INFJ can easily read the emotional atmosphere and find the root cause of the problem. From there, they will attempt to resolve the matter as soon as possible – nine out of ten times, they will succeed in doing so.
Pseudo-Extrovert Mode: Your INFJ isnât unfriendly in the least bit. They see others as fascinating little learning experiences and donât mind making friends here and there. Do not let this fool you, however – after prolonged social interaction, they will need time alone to recharge.
Grooming
INFJs are often detached from reality, caught up in their own world. As a result, they may forget to take care of themselves. Be sure to remind them to bathe and change their clothes now and then – theyâll thank you for it later.
Feeding
Your INFJ needs nourishment sometimes, as any living thing does. Knowledge and experiences can often help satisfy their hunger, but when in doubt, give them sweets and fruit.
Sleep
Sleep is a necessary function that keeps up alive. As important as it is, the INFJ is a night owl, and will often forget to sleep. Their activities and thoughts often prevent them from getting the rest they need. Remind your INFJ that they can worry about these things tomorrow – they arenât themselves when they are tired, and that isnât a mess you want to deal with.
FAQs
Is occasional grumpiness normal?
Well, of course!
Everyone gets grouchy now and then, and INFJs are no exception. Whether it be frustration, anxiousness, or anything in between, they are bound to get unhappy at some point. In this case, give them space and offer support when necessary.
If they are so good at caring for others, canât they take care of themselves?
Not quite. INFJs often get caught up in the needs of others and end up forgetting about themselves. This is why they might need a bit of help. Without a good friend or two, even the most responsible of introverts wonât be able to thrive.
If they care so much about everyone, do they really like me in particular?
Sure they do! Contrary to popular belief, INFJs donât automatically love everyone. Itâs only natural to dislike some individuals, and even the INFJ can hold grudges against those that bother them.
If an INFJ talks about you often and voluntarily decides to spend time with you, you have likely been deemed worthy of their affection. They are very loyal, too, so you have no need to question their reliability. They will always be there for you, even at your worst.
for that anon that wanted the infj user guide, here it is =), an actual infj made it so it wont be total crap
1. Accept that you will never really understand your INFJ. If it were possible for anyone to 100% understand any INFJ, an INFJ would have wrote a book on it by now. But the truth is, even we INFJs canât completely understand ourselves, so we donât expect you to. But we can tell when youâre trying, and that means a lot.Â
2. Listen to what your INFJ is not saying. You know the quote that goes something like âthe quietest people have the loudest mindsâ? That is very true of INFJs. The quieter we are, the more we probably have on our minds. We want friends and partners who understand that and will want to talk to us about it, and more importantly, listen.
3. Know that INFJs really arenât that serious. Yes, we have a lot on our minds. Yes, we can be sensitive. Yes, we like to partake in serious discussions and debates at times. But we are happiest when we can just be playful, carefree and weird with someone who accepts that side of us.Â
4. If youâre not happy, your INFJ is not happy. If someone we love is upset, we take on their feelings as our own. We are extremely empathetic. Sometimes even the sadness in the eyes of the person checking us out at the grocery store is enough to dampen our mood for the rest of the day. This is a quality that makes INFJs different from a lot of other types. We value people who understand this and donât take every mood shift personally. Itâs just hard when you feel what everyone else is feeling all the time.Â
5. INFJs can be very stubborn. INFJs hate conflict and avoid it as much as possible, but if you hit the right nerve we will jump in and defend our opinions and values to the death. Later we will probably secretly try to understand your perspective (because weâre always trying to understand everything about everyone) and that might even cause us to agree with you a little, but we wonât tell you that. đÂ
6. INFJs can forgive, but we never forget. If you hurt us and then apologize, weâll probably forgive you and give you a second chance. But we will never forget the hurt we felt and we will be cautious around you for awhile afterwards.Â
7. INFJs are experts at hiding their feelings. We tend to bottle a lot up inside, so on the outside everything appears completely fine. Even the most intuitive types (except maybe other INFJs) canât typically tell when an INFJ is upset. We both like this and hate this about ourselves.
8. INFJs feel a lot of responsibility, always. We need to make sure everyone is happy, but we also need to be there to listen to everyoneâs problems. We need to make sure everything on a project goes right, but we also need to make sure everyone working on the project gets a say in what is happening. We need to make sure we get there on time, but donât want to make anyone upset by rushing them. We are internal perfectionist and put a lot of pressure on ourselves. But we donât come across as a typical type A personality because those type of people stress people out and we donât want to stress anyone out. So we just keep our perfectionism to ourselves and it drives us crazy a little.Â
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