roamingpixels:

Sooooo I’ve wanted to post this for a while but I never could really get my thoughts straight and to be honest, My thoughts still aren’t completely together so please excuse any jumping around I may do. I’m just typing as I think.

I’ve noticed something a lot in the Sims community, in roleplaying communities, in general, to be honest, that there’s a lot of abuse going on that I feel like no one seems to catch.  I know I said abuse and that sounds scary, but honestly what I’ve witnessed from my own experiences and what I just see going on is scary.

I see so many people pair off and become friends with each other which is fantastic, but sometimes one of the people becomes controlling and manipulative. They tend to isolate their friend away from everyone or anyone they don’t like. Isolation is a form of abuse. I see things go down with friends and the immediate subposts about how sad Toxic person is, how they should just leave because no one cares about them. About how they never should have tried. They post things to guilt the victim and make them feel guilty about whatever it is they’ve done. Whether its talking to someone other than them, branching out and gaining new friends or just not going along with something they want.

Guilting is a form of abuse. 

If you have friends that

• Beg you not to talk to someone. Tell you shit about said person to make them seem like a terrible horrible person.
• Get angry and subpost /subtweet about how they feel ignored, how they should just delete everything and leave, how no one likes them. ect
• Get upset when you can’t reply or don’t feel like replying and make it out to be “their fault” and that you’re ignoring them on purpose.
• Get upset/petty/bitter about you trying to branch out and talk to other people besides them.
• Become paranoid about new friendships.
• Try to keep you from interacting with anyone else
• Make you feel shitty for something you’ve done that wasn’t the way they wanted.

Then you may want to reevaluate your friendship with said person. Someone shouldn’t make you feel bad about doing things that make you happy. They shouldn’t get jealous of new friends, they shouldn’t make a big deal about you being unable to reply. You should never have to feel like you need to hide friendships or plot points away from your friends in fear of how they will react.

I dunno. I see a lot of shit and I just wanted to get the information out there because I don’t think people see it as abusive when it really is.